We all struggle with the uncertainty. We get worried. We fret about finances, our children and our happiness. I worry with you. But, on my journey I’ve been shown that worry does nothing. It offers nothing. It only is self-serving. Worry has no way of making change. It can cause anxiety and pain. So, I ask myself the question, what will worry solve? It is like offering an emotion to something that is bothering you and then it does nothing to solve it.
I was checking out my competition on Instagram the other day. My competition you ask? Jenna Dewan Tatum. Yes, you heard it here, Channing Tatum’s other woman. He’s not ready to sweep me off my feet yet, so right now I will just be watching to make sure she’s on the up and up. As I scrolled through her feed I realized she is a bit of a soul sister of mine. And, what I really needed to hear at that moment was from a post she made acknowledging Oprah. It brought a tear to my eye because it made me remember what is truly important, and I need to share it with you.
Oprah: “I did an interview in the late 80’s with a mother who had watched her son die, and she said she climbed into bed with him, crawled into bed with him as he was dying, and his last words were: ‘oh…it was all so simple,’ and then he smiled. When she said that I got chills because I thought, “Yes, we are going to take our last breath and say “Why were we struggling all the time? Why were we swimming upstream, when all we had to do was just look at each other and accept each other for who each of us represents on the planet? Ah, it was so simple. I didn’t have to fight that hard. It didn’t have to be that hard.”
It may seem morbid, but it seems when we put ourselves in those positions that we remember the true path of our life. Life doesn’t have to be so hard. There are bills to pay and things to do. But, if someone you loved became sick and/or dying we know that those worries would seem trivial. Our focus goes back to the pureness of love. The hassles of life seem to feel so unimportant when it means the connection with another could be in harms way.
I just remind you that we have a job to do in this life, but in no way was our greatest concerns the vehicle we drive, or our bank statement, or how clean the house is or what clothes we wear. It is about love. Remember that and you can get through anything.
As Dolly Parton would say, “Don’t get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”